'Assisted Marriages'

'Assisted Marriages' - A term that I have had a fixation so strong that it compelled me to pen down my thoughts on the same.

I was so convinced about this concept, the author of this article was introducing a third dimension to the sacred institution of Marriage. Often, we have come across various articles / views on Love Marriages and Arranged Marriages. I have utmost respect for both these concepts and have seen success stories amongst my friends under both these types of Marriages, however, it was indeed time to rationalise and re-define the terms.

The author went on to explain in detail how this concept actually works, there is collective effort from the whole family to join two people from different backgrounds / parts of the world to live as 'One' - for trusting, respecting, caring and looking after each other and the families involved therein. The two people have become more involved these days, more so in the urban society. The decision is taken by the whole family, which in itself means that our society has come of age.

I personally havent been too fond of people who have eloped and hurt their parents, for whatever reason, our parents deserve better respect is what I feel. Also, forcing the son / daughter into a everlasting knot when they have shown little / no interest in the alliance is not a great idea.

These days the Son / Daughter need to be consulted on what they expect from a life partner, after all is a decision which, all of us would not want to go wrong in. The days of both girl-boy not seeing each other before the day of marriage just dont work anymore. 'Compatability' has become so important, especially the generation which have been coming along are not accustomed to ajdusting, they want it all and want it now! A few things have to be inculcated from very young, so is the idea of 'Adjusting', understanding the 'Value of Money', being accountable for ones actions, respecting others etc.,

Back to the topic of 'Assisted Marriages', every person involved should take adequate responsibility and letting the two most important people talking to each other is a gesture which should be appreciated and not condemned.

The most important aspect is to communicate, understand each others' view and take a collective decision...